Something went wrong. Esther Perel speaking at the Smart Marriages Conference in Orlando, Florida.For more relational resources, visit estherperel.com. The feeling after reading Mating In Captivity: A sense of clarity about the differences between love, desire and monogamy (three words that are often used to refer to the same thing). You're listening to a sample of the Audible audio edition. When reading this book I felt as if I were reading advice from Cosmopolitan. The main thing I took away from it is that we expect too much from our spouse, who is, after all, only one person. Sometimes it's as if I'm reading about myself! Drawing on more than twenty years of experience as a couples therapist, Perel examines the complexities of sustaining desire. Attachment Theory: A Workbook for Your Inner Personality for Develop Emotional Inte... Married with Benefits: Our Real-life Adult Industry Adventures. It was quite refreshing to have her non-judgmental viewpoint on most issues of sexuality. Listen to Mating in Captivity - Single by Ghost Guilt on Apple Music. Full Summary of Mating in Captivity Overview. Psychoanalysts and psychologists tend to be obsessed with family as a source of all our sexual and other problems. There's a struggle in finding another person erotic and sexy when there's too much comfort and security. has been added to your Cart. The gist is that love demands closeness, but erotic desire needs space to thrive. The answer, Esther Perel believes, is yes, and she wrote this book in hopes of showing us the way. Drawing on more than twenty years of experience as a couples therapist, Perel examines the complexities of sustaining desire. The electrifying sequel to "The Sympathizer" by Viet Viet Thanh Nguyen. And you better understand what's going on first. by Harper, Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic. I haven't read a better reason to be hopeful that long term relationships can maintain, even increase, passion and desire than this --. I thought the book was very smart and full of certainly not mainstream, yet much needed thoughts. She also highlights important issues couples face as they navigate committed relationships. In most cases, items shipped from Amazon.com may be returned for a full refund. Perel explores this seeming contradiction and sheds light on how modern couples can become aware of this and mediate it. I'm not one for self-help books or couple advice, but I was intrigued after that interview. This book answers that question completely and helps one explore the contradictions and congruity of love and sexuality. Totally influencing my life right now. The audiobook explores the ways sexual passion and long-term security are often at odds, and highlights important issues couples face as they navigate committed relationships. The view of domesticity as be. 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